How to Catch a Cheating Boyfriend
It’s a fact, lots of boyfriends cheat. If you think yours is one of them, it’s best if you find it out before your relationship goes any further than it is right now. Yeah, it’s going to hurt, but it’s better than finding out after you are married with kids. If your gut tells you that something is wrong, chances are good that there is indeed something going on. As women, we typically want to believe the best about those who we love, even though we know, in our heart, that something isn’t right.
The first step to catch a cheating boyfriend is being alert to the signs that something isn’t right. Some signs to look for include:
~ Your boyfriend all of the sudden starts carrying his cell phone with him everywhere he goes. He’ll no longer allow you to touch the phone and will possibly even password protect it so you can’t look at it if he does leave it lying around. The same can be true for the computer.
~ Has your boyfriend all of the sudden started dressing better or working out?
~ Has his sex drive changed? Some guys seem to lose their sex drive, while others want to be intimate with their girlfriend all the time. If you’ve gone from 5 nights a week to 0 or from 0 to 5, there might be a problem.
~ Does he lie about his whereabouts? Has he started having night meetings? Does he have a new set of “friends” that you don’t know? If so, chances are pretty good that he’s cheating on you.
~ If you are getting anonymous calls or hang-ups when you answer your home phone, I hope you’re on high alert.
~ Has be become irritable for no reason? Does he become defensive when you ask simple questions?
Taken alone, each one of these signs could mean nothing. If you’ve been cheated on in the past, or are a jealous person by nature, try not to jump to conclusions. That said, if more than one of these are true and if you’ve got that feeling in your gut that he’s cheating – you’re probably wise to pay attention to it.
The problem is that you’ve invested a lot of time into your relationship and chances are, you don’t want to just walk away. You want proof. You actually want to catch your cheating boyfriend. This is where a lot of woman mess up. Instead of collecting evidence, they confront their boyfriend before they have any evidence.
Unless you’re dating a guy whose really dumb or really honest (which I doubt if you think he’s cheating on you), he’s not likely to admit that he’s been cheating. It just isn’t gonna happen. If you really think you’re being cheated on, your best bet is to stay quiet and to start watching closely.
Here’s how to catch a cheating boyfriend:
~ Do you have access to your boyfriend’s computer? Do you share a computer? Check the history on the computer. If it’s erased after he uses the computer, chances are good that he’s cheating on you. You can install a spy program on your computer to confirm your suspicions.
~ If you are receiving phone calls from unknown numbers or if there are strange phone numbers on his cell phone, use a service such as reverse phone detective to track the telephone numbers.
~ Check his stories to see if they are true. If he tells you that he’s working late, drive past his place of business to see if his car is there. If you think that he’s cheating, it most likely won’t be.
~ If you live with him, pay close attention to his pockets when doing laundry. Look for receipts or other items that show what he’s been doing.
~ If you have a shared bank account or credit card account, pay very close attention to all charges. If he’s cheating, you may very well find unexplained charges.
It’s no fun to catch a cheating boyfriend, but if your gut tells you that something is wrong, then take the time to follow up on your suspicions. Once they are confirmed, things will get worse, because you’ll have to decide what to do about it. More about that later…
Have you every caught your boyfriend cheating? How did you do it? Did you stay together after you caught him?