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Have you broken up with the love of your life and are looking for a way to get him back? Do you feel sick over a recent break up? Breaking up isn’t fun – in fact, it’s pretty darn painful and many people wish that they could go back and change things, or to reverse the break up all together. The question is – is it possible? And if it is – is it the right thing to do? Read on to learn how to get your boyfriend back, and to decide if that’s what you really want to do.

Before you go begging your boyfriend to take you back (you shouldn’t beg ever!), decide if being together is really what you want.

~ First, think back to your relationship. Were you mostly happy or were you fighting all the time? If you spent most of the time miserable, it may not be a relationship that’s worth saving. On the other hand, if you spent most of your time happy with one another, then it may be worth working out. If you aren’t sure, ask some of your friends to tell you how happy you were in your relationship – they may have a completely different outlook than you do!

~ Look at the direction that both of your lives are going. If you are going in completely different directions, then it’s possible that you are each better off on your own. For example, if you are dead set on having children some day and he never wants to get married, that’s a pretty major difference! You probably don’t believe it now, but you’ll likely be happier on your own than you would be together…just as soon as the initial pain wears off a bit.

~ This should go without saying, but if there was any abuse in your relationship, then it’s not worth repairing, unless one or both parties seek professional help.

If you’ve made it this far and you are still wondering how to get your boyfriend back, then maybe you had something that was worth holding on to.

First, don’t crowd him. Don’t call, don’t send silly text messages, don’t email 500 times a day. Heck, don’t email even once a day. Your mom probably told you that guys like to chase a girl – well, guess what? She was right.

Once you’ve both had some cooling off time, you can work to see if you can get back together. Chances are you know why it is you broke up. Was it because you were too clingy? Do you get jealous over little things? Whatever it was, you are going to have to make some changes if you want things to work better this time around.

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Have you broken up and gotten back together? How did you do it? Are you still together today? Share your stories with us and help someone else who is in the position you once were!

I have a friend that breaks up with her boyfriend what seems like at least once a week. They are constantly breaking up and getting back together. It seems a little ridiculous to me, but it seems to work for them. Sadly, I think that there have got to be issues in their relationship, that unless worked out, will cause them to continue down this path until they eventually break up for good.

Breaking up and getting back together is common among those dating and even among married couples who are toying with the idea of separation and/or divorce.

I think it comes down to the age old, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

If you’re in a relationship where you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, it may be time to think about why you’re doing it and whether or not it’s really healthy for you.

For example, do you get back together with your boyfriend or husband because you are afraid of being alone? I suspect that’s a pretty common reason for reconnecting after a break up and it’s definitely the WRONG reason.

If you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, are you resolving the problems that caused the break up in the first place? If you constantly fight about one or two major issues but no one ever changes – you are wasting your time. On the other hand, if you are both willing to get help with your problems and are willing to make some changes, then things may work out.

My friend tells me that she gets back together with her boyfriend because she’s been with him so long that she would feel like she had wasted her time if she didn’t give the relationship “one more chance.” I bet that’s pretty common – but it doesn’t really make that much sense. If it’s truly one more chance, that might be okay. When it becomes one hundred more chances, it gets a little out of hand. In my (very humble) opinion, she only started wasting time when she stayed with him after she realized that it probably wasn’t going to work.

For some people, breaking up and getting back together seems to be a part of life. If you’re one of those people, just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons!

If you’ve been in this position, tell us your story. How many times have your broken up and gotten back together? How did it work out for you? Was your relationship better or did you end up breaking up again?

I’ll admit it, I hate when I’m wrong. I think that makes me pretty normal. I don’t especially like saying sorry either. Unfortunately, I find myself in the position of having to apologize more often than I’d like to admit. Typically, I sound exactly like my 4-year old when the time comes for my to apologize. If you have kids, you know exactly what I’m talking about!

Seriously, though, knowing how to apologize is an important part of being in a relationship. Sometimes it’s just got to be done.

Before you can learn how to say sorry, you’ve got to be able to admit that you did something wrong in the first place. And that’s where the problem comes in…for me at least. It’s not fun to admit that you’re wrong. For some people, it’s darn near impossible. Here’s a hint for you though, if you are fighting with your boyfriend or husband, chances are that it’s at least partly your fault.

Once you are able to admit to yourself that you did something wrong, you’ve got to make up your mind to apologize. There are two basic ways to say you’re sorry. You can actually say it or you can write it. Which method you decide to use may very well depend on the severity of the argument and your personal feelings about apologizing. For some people, an apology comes easy. For others, like me, it’s a nightmare.

I usually choose the written apology for any wrongdoing greater than forgetting to pick something up from the store or staining his favorite shirt. Writing allows me to think about what I want to say…it also masks that sneer in my voice that always seems to show up right at the time that it’s time to say I’m sorry.

But what about those times when you know that you’ve hurt someone’s feelings, but you really don’t believe that you’ve done anything wrong. For example, you have a disagreement with your boyfriend or husband about finances. During the disagreement, that really ended up to be more like a fight, you said some things that hurt your sweeties feelings. After it’s over, you feel sorry that you hurt his feelings, but you stand by what you said in the first place. How can you apologize when you don’t believe that you’ve done anything wrong?

During situations like these, it’s important to stay true to what you believe. For the sake of your relationship, it’s also important to work things out with your guy. During situations like this, I like to apologize for the pain that I caused without apologizing for the way that I feel.

In the end, sometimes you’ve just got to suck it up and say you’re sorry, even if you don’t want to. Heck, sometimes you have to say it even when you don’t mean it. In a relationship, we aren’t just responsible for our own feelings – we’ve got the feelings of someone else to think about. Learning to say sorry (without sounding like a 4-year old) is going to go a long way in making your relationship a happier one.