My Lil Red Dress

It’s a fact, lots of boyfriends cheat. If you think yours is one of them, it’s best if you find it out before your relationship goes any further than it is right now. Yeah, it’s going to hurt, but it’s better than finding out after you are married with kids. If your gut tells you that something is wrong, chances are good that there is indeed something going on. As women, we typically want to believe the best about those who we love, even though we know, in our heart, that something isn’t right.

The first step to catch a cheating boyfriend is being alert to the signs that something isn’t right. Some signs to look for include:

~ Your boyfriend all of the sudden starts carrying his cell phone with him everywhere he goes. He’ll no longer allow you to touch the phone and will possibly even password protect it so you can’t look at it if he does leave it lying around. The same can be true for the computer.

~ Has your boyfriend all of the sudden started dressing better or working out?

~ Has his sex drive changed? Some guys seem to lose their sex drive, while others want to be intimate with their girlfriend all the time. If you’ve gone from 5 nights a week to 0 or from 0 to 5, there might be a problem.

~ Does he lie about his whereabouts? Has he started having night meetings? Does he have a new set of “friends” that you don’t know? If so, chances are pretty good that he’s cheating on you.

~ If you are getting anonymous calls or hang-ups when you answer your home phone, I hope you’re on high alert.

~ Has be become irritable for no reason? Does he become defensive when you ask simple questions?

Taken alone, each one of these signs could mean nothing. If you’ve been cheated on in the past, or are a jealous person by nature, try not to jump to conclusions. That said, if more than one of these are true and if you’ve got that feeling in your gut that he’s cheating – you’re probably wise to pay attention to it.

The problem is that you’ve invested a lot of time into your relationship and chances are, you don’t want to just walk away. You want proof. You actually want to catch your cheating boyfriend. This is where a lot of woman mess up. Instead of collecting evidence, they confront their boyfriend before they have any evidence.

Unless you’re dating a guy whose really dumb or really honest (which I doubt if you think he’s cheating on you), he’s not likely to admit that he’s been cheating. It just isn’t gonna happen. If you really think you’re being cheated on, your best bet is to stay quiet and to start watching closely.

Here’s how to catch a cheating boyfriend:

~ Do you have access to your boyfriend’s computer? Do you share a computer? Check the history on the computer. If it’s erased after he uses the computer, chances are good that he’s cheating on you. You can install a spy program on your computer to confirm your suspicions.

~ If you are receiving phone calls from unknown numbers or if there are strange phone numbers on his cell phone, use a service such as reverse phone detective to track the telephone numbers.

~ Check his stories to see if they are true. If he tells you that he’s working late, drive past his place of business to see if his car is there. If you think that he’s cheating, it most likely won’t be.

~ If you live with him, pay close attention to his pockets when doing laundry. Look for receipts or other items that show what he’s been doing.

~ If you have a shared bank account or credit card account, pay very close attention to all charges. If he’s cheating, you may very well find unexplained charges.

It’s no fun to catch a cheating boyfriend, but if your gut tells you that something is wrong, then take the time to follow up on your suspicions. Once they are confirmed, things will get worse, because you’ll have to decide what to do about it. More about that later…

Have you every caught your boyfriend cheating? How did you do it? Did you stay together after you caught him?

I’m the May in a May December relationship, and I’ll be the first to tell you that it’s not always the easiest kind of relationship to be in. I’ll also tell you that I’ve had just about as much as I can take of what seems to be the popular opinion that it must be about money.

May December relationships have become more accepted in recent years, probably in part due to high-profile couples like Hugh Hefner and whatever women he happens to be dating at any given time and Donald Trump and his penchant for younger wives. Unfortunately, those relationships have also led mainstream America to believe that any younger woman with an older man must be with him for money.

That simply isn’t the case. Are there women who date older men for money? I’m sure there are. There are lots and lots of people who date and marry for the wrong reasons….that’s partly why so many marriages end in divorce.

I’d just like to point out, for all the other women like me, who happen to be in a May December relationship with a man that they really love, that it isn’t always about the money. I’ll be the first to admit that dating a much older man isn’t easy. In fact, we tried not to date for some time. There just seemed to be too many things standing in the way of us being able to have a long-term relationship. Like the fact that he had never had any children and I have three – all under the age of 13. And the fact that chances are he’ll die right about the time I’m ready to retire. There were lots of things to stop us from starting a relationship, and only one thing in favor of us moving forward…and it wasn’t money!

There is really no point to my post today, except that I’m a little irked about yet another comment that I heard recently about my relationship. And since I have a blog, I’m entitled to get irked if I want to. But since I like to have something of substance to say when I write, here’s a few things I’d just like to throw out there:

For those of you who are happy in a May December relationship with someone who you really love – ignore the things that you sometimes hear. When people don’t understand something, it’s normal for them to dismiss it in a manner that allows them to understand. As long as we know that we are in a relationship for the right reasons, we don’t need to worry about what others think.

For those of you who have feelings for someone who is much younger or older than you, but are denying your feelings because you are concerned what others might say…do what’s right for you and forget all the rest of it. You’re the one who has to wake up every morning and live your life – do it in a way that will bring you love and happiness.

And, last, for my friends that don’t understand that two people can love each other even when they were born in different years. It’s not always about money, sex, or a woman that didn’t have a good father. Sometimes people just fall in love. Can’t that be good enough?

For more reading on May December relationships, check out the book What’s Age Got to Do With It? by Anne Cantelo. It’s a great book that takes a hard look at relationships with a large age gap and provides honest information. A great read for anyone – especially those in this type of relationship.

My sister called me the other day, in a total panic over a first date. I’m a born talker, so I’ve always viewed a first date as an opportunity to talk to someone new, but getting nervous over a date is common for many women.

I think one of the main tricks to preparing for a first date is to not prepare too much. In fact, sometimes last minute first dates are the best kind, since they leave you with very little time to worry. Of course, you don’t have a lot of control over how far in advance you know about your date, so here are some tips to get prepared, no matter how far in advance you know about it.

Let’s talk about what you should wear on your date. If you are like most women, you want to look good. It’s great to look your best, but you also want to be comfortable. Dress for the occasion, but don’t try to be someone who you are not. Make sure that you wear something you have worn before so you know that you’ll be comfortable. Know what you’re going to wear in advance so that you aren’t worrying about it at the last minute.

It wouldn’t hurt to think about some things that you’d like to talk about. I have a tendency to talk too much all the time, but it’s worse when I’m nervous. You don’t want to talk too much, but you don’t want to be completely silent either. Think of some questions that you can ask while on your date.

Keep yourself busy the days before your date. Don’t dwell on your upcoming date or you’ll drive yourself insane, especially if you’re the type of person who gets nervous easily.

Don’t make too much out of the date. One of three things can happen – you might be going out with the person who will become the love of your life. Or, you could be meeting someone who will become a great friend. If all else fails and your date turns into a disaster, you’ll have some great stories to tell!

Have you broken up with the love of your life and are looking for a way to get him back? Do you feel sick over a recent break up? Breaking up isn’t fun – in fact, it’s pretty darn painful and many people wish that they could go back and change things, or to reverse the break up all together. The question is – is it possible? And if it is – is it the right thing to do? Read on to learn how to get your boyfriend back, and to decide if that’s what you really want to do.

Before you go begging your boyfriend to take you back (you shouldn’t beg ever!), decide if being together is really what you want.

~ First, think back to your relationship. Were you mostly happy or were you fighting all the time? If you spent most of the time miserable, it may not be a relationship that’s worth saving. On the other hand, if you spent most of your time happy with one another, then it may be worth working out. If you aren’t sure, ask some of your friends to tell you how happy you were in your relationship – they may have a completely different outlook than you do!

~ Look at the direction that both of your lives are going. If you are going in completely different directions, then it’s possible that you are each better off on your own. For example, if you are dead set on having children some day and he never wants to get married, that’s a pretty major difference! You probably don’t believe it now, but you’ll likely be happier on your own than you would be together…just as soon as the initial pain wears off a bit.

~ This should go without saying, but if there was any abuse in your relationship, then it’s not worth repairing, unless one or both parties seek professional help.

If you’ve made it this far and you are still wondering how to get your boyfriend back, then maybe you had something that was worth holding on to.

First, don’t crowd him. Don’t call, don’t send silly text messages, don’t email 500 times a day. Heck, don’t email even once a day. Your mom probably told you that guys like to chase a girl – well, guess what? She was right.

Once you’ve both had some cooling off time, you can work to see if you can get back together. Chances are you know why it is you broke up. Was it because you were too clingy? Do you get jealous over little things? Whatever it was, you are going to have to make some changes if you want things to work better this time around.

If you want all the secrets on how to get your boyfriend back, check out The Magic Of Making Up. It’s an ebook, full of great ideas that you can use to get your boyfriend back. The author guarantees results or will give readers a refund within 60 days of purchase. The best thing is that you can download it right away and get to work on getting your ex back!

Have you broken up and gotten back together? How did you do it? Are you still together today? Share your stories with us and help someone else who is in the position you once were!

I have a friend that breaks up with her boyfriend what seems like at least once a week. They are constantly breaking up and getting back together. It seems a little ridiculous to me, but it seems to work for them. Sadly, I think that there have got to be issues in their relationship, that unless worked out, will cause them to continue down this path until they eventually break up for good.

Breaking up and getting back together is common among those dating and even among married couples who are toying with the idea of separation and/or divorce.

I think it comes down to the age old, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

If you’re in a relationship where you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, it may be time to think about why you’re doing it and whether or not it’s really healthy for you.

For example, do you get back together with your boyfriend or husband because you are afraid of being alone? I suspect that’s a pretty common reason for reconnecting after a break up and it’s definitely the WRONG reason.

If you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, are you resolving the problems that caused the break up in the first place? If you constantly fight about one or two major issues but no one ever changes – you are wasting your time. On the other hand, if you are both willing to get help with your problems and are willing to make some changes, then things may work out.

My friend tells me that she gets back together with her boyfriend because she’s been with him so long that she would feel like she had wasted her time if she didn’t give the relationship “one more chance.” I bet that’s pretty common – but it doesn’t really make that much sense. If it’s truly one more chance, that might be okay. When it becomes one hundred more chances, it gets a little out of hand. In my (very humble) opinion, she only started wasting time when she stayed with him after she realized that it probably wasn’t going to work.

For some people, breaking up and getting back together seems to be a part of life. If you’re one of those people, just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons!

If you’ve been in this position, tell us your story. How many times have your broken up and gotten back together? How did it work out for you? Was your relationship better or did you end up breaking up again?